We started dancing for our own wedding 27 years ago, and have been dancing every since! Our own experience, and that of the thousands of students we have taught, has helped us develop this FAQ. It's useful for planning your wedding, or just figuring out what goes into the learning process, and what to expect from the time you put in. If you read carefully, you will see that dancing isn't just about Weddings, it's about life!
A: There are many reasons to consider taking dance lessons for your wedding. Here are just a few...
It doesn't matter how simple or fancy you choose to be, or whether you consider dancing "your thing". Your first dance will absolutely create one of the top 4 strongest, lifelong memories of your special day. We call them "memory milestones". Our decades of experience, and thousands of wedding couples taught (---even couples who skipped the wedding lessons and wished they had taken them), has proven it, and WeddingWire backed us up in a recent article post.
...rather than trying to just get THROUGH the moment."
One of our recent grooms said this, and it couldn't be more true.
MOST couples we have polled over our 27 years as dancers, who just "hug and rock", never remember their dance, or their song in the years to come. Even just a few dance lessons let you form that special memory that should be there forever.
One husband and wife who didn't take lessons, said, "there is a hole in our hearts, where our first dance should be."
It's great one-one-on-one time, relationship time. No work. No school, No wedding planning (even though your wedding WILL benefit). Just the two of you spending time together.
4. You have dressed up the rest of your day, why not your dancing to match?
5. You will spend the least amount of time and money on dancing and it will have a bigger impact than almost anything else.
6. At the end of the day, you will have each other, your rings, AND your dancing. All else is temporary!
7. Social Media means EVERYTHING you do, shows up on the web FOREVER! Don't you want to look great dancing?!
8. NO ONE has EVER told us "We wish we had just hugged and rocked and saved the money!"
1) Your song. The rhythm of your song determines the dance you must learn, and some dances are harder to learn “the basics” than others.
2) Your budget
3) How much time you can prioritize
4) Your goals: “Crash Course"? 4-6 hours. "Better Prepared"? 8-10 hours. "You Think You Can Dance"? 20+ hours.
5) Whether you choose private lessons, group classes, or both. Keep in mind when choosing one over the other... It takes 3-4 times as many group lessons as private lessons to accomplish the same goals.
A: In a Perfect World, EVERYONE would do what WE did … Start a year out, and take weekly lessons right up to the big day.
Like YOU, we ALSO lead busy lives. We had 40+ hour work weeks, PLUS hours of other weekly activities and commitments. But, we made time for dancing (3-5 hours/week!) because it was important to us, and to our wedding.
That said... Whether you commit to take 4, 6, 10 or more lessons, you should take them weekly, right up to your wedding day.
...can’t we just take 1 or 2 hours?"
1) A single 1 hour lesson will get you started on the basic (foundation) step of a dance.
2) For reference, we add 1-2 moves per lesson hour, and fine tune your technique, styling, and interaction we go.
3) When couples choose this path, they are often certain they can somehow fit 4, 6, 10 hours or more of learning into just 1 to 3 hours. People say, "but can't you just show us an entrance, and moves, and a twirl and a dip?!" Regrettably, the answer is no. It really does take more time.
Are you picking your song first, or your dance first?
Every song has a rhythm that dictates the dance you have to learn. So, if you pick a song you love, and the rhythm is a Tango, you must learn Tango. But, if you pick a dance you really want to learn, then we can always help you find a song you will love, to go with it.
Picking the right song can be a challenge. You want something that speaks to you and represents you as a couple. But, you also need a song that has the right timing and tempo for dancing. We can help you find just the right song, and our consulting services are free with your lessons.
There are many reasons why wedding lessons are more expensive and none of it is because we, or our competition, want to take advantage of you.
1. Wedding private lessons are short term, and focused on a performance deadline. The process would be much more gradual and natural to develop for non-event students. So, our efforts are greater, and our risks are higher.
2. We are also assuming risk when allowing students to purchase lessons individually, with no contract and no commitment. Our reputation rests on your happiness with your dancing, and your wedding audience's impression of our work.
3. Wedding couples require greater scheduling flexibility, including teaching during off hours, re-arranging entire lesson schedules, and last-minute cancellations (less than 24 hours notice)
5. Wedding lessons may include a 2nd instructor for demonstration purposes, at the primary instructor's discretion, to offer assistance, or demonstrate movement. (Normally an additional one hour charge)
6. Our Wedding lessons include filming video for practice and progress purposes, as needed. (Most companies charge for this or do not allow filming.)